Anxiety & Stress

Operating from a false identity creates much of our stress and anxiety, and there are times when we allow our energy reserves to become so depleted that we find ourselves mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and relationally empty. In this condition we make mistakes, miss opportunities, create pain for ourselves and others, and threaten our physical health. I can help you understand discover your true identity and help chart a new course. I will provide simple tools to help you build resilience.

Tenacity & Determination

A quality of resilient people is the ability to hang in in there and not let go. When everything inside you is telling you that you’ve had enough and you cannot go on, you find within yourself just enough energy to hold on. In the New Testament Paul said, “Suffering produces perseverance, perseverance character, and character, hope.” This determination comes from a vision of the kind of person we want to be, an intention to be that person in the moment it is required, and the means to do it.

Active Optimism

This quality comes with not only a “glass half full” mentality, but includes a belief in your own agency, or your ability to make decisions and create movement that will work in your favor. It is the belief that you have within your reach all the resources you need to push through, whether that is from something within you or from those around you. Your belief that things can change for the better is based on a working process and not simply crossing your fingers and hoping!

Overwhelming Emotions

If you are the type of person who experiences life primarily through your emotions, overwhelming emotions can dominate and unbalance your perception of life, and therefore your experience of life. Help with emotions comes through tools related to regulation of breath and grounding exercises, as well as regulation of thoughts and learning to redirect and manage the “story” you are telling yourself in any situation. We must learn to transform emotions and not allow them to be in charge.

Decisive Action

When you are stuck in a rut or to use a more eloquent illustration, maintaining a particular orbit which you refuse to leave, you can continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over. What is needed is a burst of energy from a retro rocket and you leave the orbit creating a new one. This is decisive action. The ability to take all the information you have and make the best possible decision you can to move forward. Your faith is in your ability to adjust and adapt to your change, and continue fine-tuning until you are happy.

Empathic Connection

Empathy is a capacity to know and understand what others are experiencing, primarily through their thoughts and emotions. Using this knowledge creates a connection with others that is helpful in a variety of ways for resilience. Not only does it help you sense what others will do in a given situation, it helps you better connect with them and help them feel understood and valued. They feel loved and your ability to work together in partnership is greatly improved, and so your resilience improves as well.